Realtalk,
Now, before I start, I wanna say that I don’t mean to offend anyone in this post. I’m not passing judgment, nor am I trying to cast a negative light on anything—I’m just speaking my mind.
This college hook-up culture, man. Shit’s intense. Meet a girl at a party, and a couple days later you’re gettin’ it on with her. Maybe you meet her in class, and your roommates just happen to be gone for the weekend. Everything’s consensual, and in most cases, both sides are fully aware of what’s going on.
Hit it and quit it.
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shit’sjust not me, though.Call me old school, but I could see myself going to a party or meeting a girl thinking “I’m gonna get some tonight,” or “let’s see if she’ll be DTF,” or whatever. I just can’t. Don’t get me wrong, though, the temptation definitely is there; it’s just not to the point where my mind is bent on having sex with a girl. I’ll admit, however, that if she came onto me (and especially if she was a good friend), I’d have to pull some Shaolin Monk-status discipline to will myself away. If she was someone I barely met tho, fuck that. You don’t know where she’s been.
Getting back on topic, I’ve been called a pussy, whimp, and weak, to name of few, just because I’m not as eager to hook up as some of my friends are.
And that’s where it begins to bug me. I didn’t come to UCLA to be pressured to fit into some social archetype, and I’m not about to let someone force their opinions down my throat. She’s cute, but I don’t want to just hook-up with her. Seriously bro, calm down. If I do something, it’ll be more meaningful than that. College isn’t all about getting ladies, at least for me. There’s plenty of fish in the sea, and I’m in no rush to make my catch.
Get that through your head, please.
“Oh, but you gotta have fun sometimes, Nico!”
Really? You’re gonna play that card on me? Sorry I’m not as sexually frustrated as you, bro. It’s one thing to do your own thing and quietly have your way with girls, it’s another thing to consistently pressure your friend to get in on the action. The former connotes (in most cases) satisfaction—you know, just having fun, and enjoying college. The latter, however, connotes a sense of need, and sometimes even desperation, in the sense that sex is needed to have a good time.
If anything, I feel like you’re trying to force yourself into that very social archetype based on your constant blabbering. Again, calm down bro.
I’ll have fun my way, you have fun your way. I’m in no rush to have sex with a girl. I’m just going with the flow.
